1. You may be eating more calories than you realize
Cooking oil, ghee, and butter are calorie-dense and easy to underestimate — a few extra tablespoons across a day's cooking can add several hundred calories without a meal looking any different from "less." One tablespoon of ghee or oil is roughly 120 calories on its own, and a typical home-cooked sabzi or dal tempering can easily use two or three tablespoons across preparation, not counting what goes into the tadka at the end. Sweetened tea, coffee, fruit juice, and soft drinks add up quickly too, and are easy to forget when mentally tallying what you ate — two or three cups of sugared chai a day is a real, countable amount of intake, even though it rarely feels like "eating."
Snacks between meals, sauces and chutneys, and tasting food while cooking rarely get counted as "eating" either, and restaurant or takeaway portions are typically larger and richer in oil than home-cooked equivalents. None of this is about guilt — it is simply that these sources are the easiest to lose track of, because they do not feel like a "meal."
A practical first step is seeing what a typical day of eating actually adds up to. The Indian Food Calorie Calculator can help you build out a meal and see the total more clearly, oils and all.